Have
you ever wondered whether the people around you are
genuine or wearing a mask?
Most people have a genuine awareness
of how they appear to others. They either try hard to
blend in or do something drastic in clothing or behavior
to attract attention. Wanting and "needing"
to be accepted, noticed or stay unnoticed, many go to
great lengths to fullfill these needs. We've all seen
the teenagers who "wear" their needs from
top to bottom. From drastic body piercing and blue lipstick
to "The Gap" only outfits, teenagers are a
perfect portrait of how our needs scream to be fullfilled.
Of course as we age, we think we outgrow all those silly
ideas.The reality is, until you understand your needs,
you'll never be satisfied.
The
way we act, the way we speak, even the way we dress
has much to do with our Temperament Needs.We all have
them and at times, we will function positively when
our needs are being met or negatively when we become
self directed and try to meet these needs in less than
desirable ways.
There
are a few different theories out there and several "names"
that specific counselors use.I Believe that we are all
a blend of Temperaments and just like we have inherited
our physical DNA from our parents and grandparents we
too have inherited a blend of characteristics and needs.
These
Temperament Needs play an important part in the jobs
we seek, the people we date or decide to marry, and
even the friends we have or choose not to have. Without
knowing it, our Temperament leads us into all kinds
of situations and circumstances.
